Over the last few weeks, my kids have started claiming “I can’t” as an reason for not doing something they don’t want to do. They know that an outright refusal won’t go over well, so they give the ever-lame excuse “I can’t.”
I called them out on their laziness and told them they can do it, they just don’t want to do it, which is different. They persisted, “No, we want to. We just can’t.”
Having had this conversation with them several times recently I tried something different.
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way,” I told them.
Their ears perked up. They were eager to know what the new idiom meant. I explained that if you want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen. That quieted them.
While they thought about that, I thought about how it applies in my life. When do I want things badly enough to make them happen, and when do I give the excuse that “I can’t?”
I find that the list of things I can’t do gets shorter when I’m determined to make something happen. In repaying our debt, I realize I can do some things that once seemed extreme. I not only can , but I want to, because I want to reach our goal badly enough that I find a way to make it happen.
Can’t or Won’t
When we first moved into the basement, we thought we couldn’t possibly stay here long-term (more than a month or two). We were eager to get a place of our own. However, when we set our goal of paying off our student loans, our priorities changed. We were willing to do things that we previously thought we couldn’t do. Our living situation has been the single biggest contributor to our debt repayment success thus far. If we weren’t living in my in-laws’ basement rent-free we would barely be making ends meet and would not be making progress on our debt repayment.
Without a will, there would be no way.
I know we’re not alone. Anyone who sets out to achieve a goal makes sacrifices. If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen. Where there’s a will, there’s a way!
How About You?
- Tell us about a time in your life when you’ve wanted something badly enough that you found a way to make it happen. Stories of determination are motivating.
- What have you found yourself willing to do to reach your goal, that otherwise you wouldn’t do?